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case of the holiday blues probably has as many causes as
there are sufferers. Your personal experience dictates what
you find stressful, as well as how you handle anxiety. Understanding
the basic reasons people can feel sad during this "happy
time" will help you see that you're not alone! If you
are suffering from a bah-humbug attitude, try to incorporate
these spirit-generating ideas into your season:
1.
Banish resentment. If it is an obligation, reconsider your
need to do it.
Will Aunt Sue really perish without your chocolate meringues?
2.
Avoid common stressors.
Do parties make you panic? Skip them altogether or be selective
about where you go to deck the halls.
3.
No competition.
Why does this year need to be better than that great Celebration
of '87? Try not to get into the pattern of outdoing yourself
every year.
4.
Shop online.
There are no long lines to contend with in the virtual malls
of the world, and fewer sights, smells, and sounds to overwhelm
the senses!
5.
Shop ahead of time.
For those overwhelmed by tasks, shopping all year round
can help alleviate last minute stress. Of course, it may
be too late for this year, but take this tip with you into
the new year.
6.
Lasso the credit cards.
What is a reasonable amount to spend on the holidays this
year? Now divide by the number of gifts you must buy. That's
your dollar limit: Stick to it. Unfortunately, spend-aholics
are likely to use the holidays as an excuse to buy. Remember:
Credit card bills can lead to post-holiday blues.
7.
Rejuvenate your spirit.
Reacquaint yourself with the church or synagogue; or shine
up your spirituality with a class on visualization or meditation.
Get out of your own 'little world' and contribute your time
or money to those in need. Make a donation in someone's
name to an organization you know he or she would like to
support.
8.
Avoid commercialism.
Take the kids to a free Hanukkah menorah lighting or Christmas
caroling in the park. Or meet new friends by joining up
with the neighborhood carolers.
9.
Make' yourself' the gift.
Have the children gather unused toys for donation. Or do
something with those years of piano practice by organizing
a holiday concert at a nursing home.
10.
Ban martyrdom.
Why not take others up on their offer to help? You are not
a bad hostess if you let Aunt Mary bring the dessert, have
your brother-in-law scrub the casserole dish, or put the
teenagers in charge of wrapping presents.
11.
Find time for you.
Pamper yourself with a half-hour pedicure or get a massage.
Does painting give you pleasure? Then make the time to do
it!
12.
Declare victory over vices.
There is no harm in a little fudge or an occasional glass
of champagne, but think moderation. Too much alcohol or
sugar can alter moods and disrupt sleep patterns.
13.
Avoid weighty issues.
Guilt is a likely byproduct of overindulgence. Give away
extra treats that arrive as gifts and don't make three batches
of peanut brittle. Holiday salads anyone? Three well-balanced
meals will help keep your moods at an even keel. If you
have a momentary lapse of judgment, don't sweat it. That's
what those nasty New Year resolutions are for.
14.
Keep it moving.
It's easy to shelve plans to work out during the hectic
season. But resigning yourself to the couch will only make
you feel worse. Twenty minutes, three times per week, should
continue to be your goal. Get out and do! Activity, either
social or physical, will do more for the spirit than watching
the Brady Family Special.
15.
Surround yourself with love.
Avoid inviting people to your home out of obligation. It
may be difficult to turn away a relative, but it is worth
your sanity. Make the holidays special for the kids. By
reinventing the season, you escape your own childhood issues
and you won't transfer the blues to your children.
16.
Expand your support system.
Friends may be busy with their own families, but that doesn't
prevent you from making new friends. Take a class or join
an online chat group. Post on message boards when it's convenient
for you to talk!
17.
Laugh often!
Rent funny movies or surround yourself with those who make
you laugh. It's not easy to laugh and be depressed at the
same time.
~By Lisa Allan, Oxygen.com
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