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"Humility does not mean you think less
It means you think of yourself less."
Ken Blanchard, Motivational Speaker & Author
"You've Got a Friend"
From the Inside Out...
"It's Really Nothing"
Hugs and Hope
What a Site!
to Be Lived
BE the World
You Want to See!
Learning to give AND receive
without triggering old emotional 'baggage,' is a blessing
that multiplies exponentially.
From the Inside Out
"IT'S REALLY NOTHING"
Some people will be reluctant to accept your help. They hate to
bother you or anyone else. They need your reassurance that what
you did for them was "really nothing." When
dealing with them you need to minimize your bother factor even if
you had to go out of your way and it took you much time and effort.
You might feel a need to let them know how difficult it was and
you were still happy to do it for them. But this will just make
them even more reluctant to allow you to help them in the future.
careful not to feel resentful if the person you tell, "It was
really nothing," believes you. Some people tend to say this,
but deep down hope that the person they helped will realize that
what they did was a product of much effort. If you want someone
to realize that you care about them and therefore were willing to
help them at the price of great sacrifice on your part, tell it
to them. But do so in a way that conveys the message, "I feel
so much joy in helping you that no matter what I do it becomes relatively
easy since you are so important to me."
might want to give someone money because he is presently experiencing
great financial difficulties, but that person is the type who doesnt
want to take from others. Then creatively find some subterfuge about
how to get him the money he needs. Here are some examples:
Tell him that you have some extra money right now that you arent
going to be using. You dont want to leave it in the house
and you have reasons why you dont want it to be put into a
bank. Could he please do you a favor and hold it for you. You give
him permission to spend it on himself now, and he can replace it
any time in the future that he finds convenient.
Buy something from him that you might not really need, and buy it
for a higher price than it is available for elsewhere, or for more
than its really worth. This could be an item like a picture
he has, an antique that most people wouldnt buy, or some other
item that he might not have thought of selling.
Have a friend give him a used computer or another expensive item.
Then have someone else "buy" it from him. Thus he ends
up with the money that you wanted to give him in a way he feels
comfortable about taking.
Give his employer money to supplement a raise in salary or a bonus.
of my students told me the following:I was frequently surprised
that so many people refused to allow me to help them. Finally, I
spoke to a person I knew who constantly did things for other people.
"Why do people keep insisting that they dont need my
help when I know they really do?" I asked him.
I tell you the truth?" he asked me.
course," I said. "I really want to know even if its
not what I would hope to hear."
make it seem that its extremely difficult for you to do the
favors you say youll do for them. Its in your tone of
voice and the expression on your face. Create an inner positive
feeling towards helping others and express this verbally and nonverbally."
was grateful for this painful awareness. I accepted what he said
and made the necessary changes. Its unbelievable how people
who used to decline my offer of help are now totally open and grateful.
From Kindness: Making a Difference in People's Lives:
Formulas, stories, and insights by Zelig Pliskin
Printed with Permission of Shaar Press
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AVOID CAREER CHANGE
Changing careers is never easy. Half the world thinks you've lost
your mind, headhunters say you'll never work again and your mother-in-law
steps up the old "I told you so" routine. But for many
burned-out, bored or multitalented folks who are sitting on skills
they're not getting a chance to use, changing fields is the only
way to keep from losing their marbles. Regardless
of your career change strategy, never make these 10 mistakes:
Don't look for a job in another field without some intense introspection.
Nothing is worse than leaping before you look. Make sure you're
not escaping to a field that fits you just as poorly as your
Don't look for "hot" fields unless they're a good fit
for you. People who are trying to help you will come along and do
the equivalent of whispering "plastics" in your ear. Instead
of jumping at their suggestions, take time to consider your options.
Decide what you really want to do. When you enter a field just because
it's hot, burnout isn't far behind.
Don't go into a field because your friend is doing well in it. Get
thorough information about the fields you're considering by networking,
reading and doing online research. Having informational interviews
with alumni from your college, colleagues, friends or family is
a fun way to get the scoop on different fields.
Don't stick to possibilities you already know about. Stretch your
perception of what might work for you. Explore career fields you
learn about from self-assessment exercises.
let money be the deciding factor. Workplace dissatisfaction and
stress is the number-one health problem for working adults. This
is particularly true for career changers, who often earn less until
they get their sea legs in a different field.
Don't keep your dissatisfaction to yourself or try to make the switch
alone. This is the time to talk to people (probably not your boss
just yet, nor some coworker who likes to tell tales). Friends, family
and colleagues need to know what's going on so they can help you
tap into those 90-plus percent of jobs that aren't advertised until
somebody has them all sewn up.
Don't go back to school to get retreaded unless you've done some
test drives in the new field. You're never too old for an internship,
a volunteer experience or trying your hand at a contract assignment
in a new field. There are lots of ways to get experience that won't
cost you anything except your time. A new degree may or may not
make the world sit up and take notice. Be very sure where you want
to go before you put yourself through the pain and debt of another
careful when using placement agencies. Do some research to be sure
to find a good match. Ask those who work in the field youre
trying to get into or other successful career changers for suggestions.
Try to find a firm that knows how to be creative when placing career
changers not one that solely focuses on moving people up
the ladder in the same field.
Don't go to a career counselor expecting they can tell you which
field to enter. They can help ferret out your long-buried dreams
and talents, but you'll have to do the research and the decision
making by yourself. Anyone who promises to tell you what to do is
Don't expect to switch overnight. A thorough career change usually
will take a minimum of six months to pull off, and the time frequently
stretches to a year or more.
fields is one of the most invigorating things you can do. It's like
experiencing youth all over again, except with the wisdom of whatever
age you are now.
Photo: Francois Lenoir /REUTERS
fisherman rides a horse hauling a shrimp net out to sea near the
coast town of Oostduinkerke, Belgium. On days when the weather is
reasonable, a group of stalwart, yellow-slickered gentlemen mount
sturdy horses and wade into the surf at low tide to drag vast nets
behind them, ensnaring large quantities of delicious crevettes
tiny, gray shrimp that thrive in the waters of the North Sea. These
are the shrimp fishermen of Oostduinkerke, and they follow a tradition
that dates back several centuries. If you go to the National Fishery
Museum's next-door neighbor, the De Peerdevisser cafe, soon after
the fishermen return, you can purchase the just-caught, just-boiled
delicacies by the sackful.
"Hugs & Hope"
This website is dedicated to supporting very ill children and their
families. Volunteers from across the country send emails, cards,
gifts, and donations to the children, their siblings, and parents.
Many of the families have no other support outside of Hugs and Hope
and many endearing friendships have been made, especially in the
chat room where families of the sick children share ideas and encouragement.
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INFECTION PROTECTION ONBOARD
seems to be general agreement, according to a number of experts
consulted, that air travelers are at higher risk for colds and other
microbial or viral infections, perhaps simply because of the close
quarters involved. The suggested countermeasures are simple, ranging
from washing your hands and not touching your face to bringing along
your own pillow and perhaps using saline solutions to cleanse the
nose. A study from the University of California at San Francisco
published last year found that roughly one in five passengers came
down with a cold within one week of a flight. That is far higher
than the rate at which colds strike the general population at any
given time, according to Scott Gold, a physician and co-founder
of the New York Sinus Center.
addition to close people-to-people contact in an airline cabin,
Gold said, another issue is that "the air they're breathing
is primarily recirculated ... and air quality in terms of humidity
is very low and harsh," drying out the body's mucous membranes
which defend against germs. Cabin
air is a combination of fresh and recirculated air, a mixture designed
to conserve fuel that would otherwise be spent on air conditioning
if only fresh air was used. Aircraft are also equipped with filters
designed to trap infectious agents.
J. Paul Sanders of Travel Medicine Consultants in Dallas says: "The
No. 1 most common way to get a viral infection is by touching your
face nose, mouth or eyes. The organisms involved get on the
hand from a surface. When you touch your mouth, nose or face it
transmits those organisms right into the body. You
can also inhale ... but a smaller number of organisms are going
to be floating in the air than laying on surfaces. So your first
step is washing your hands more often." Those interviewed said
antimicrobial moist towelettes or lotions are a good approach if
passengers can't leave the seat to wash their hands.
says the best defense from someone in-your-face and obviously with
a cold is a healthy nose. The interior mucous membrane should be
moist, he said. "We tell people when traveling to drink more
water than normal, or if they're taking medications that dry the
nose out then it's wise to put a saline spray in," he said.
less is known about SARS, the same guidelines apply "though
it does seem to be transmitted through the air more easily than
average," with reports of transmission through building air-conditioning
systems, he said.
Stoller, president of the Women's Travel Club, says she employs
a cotton swab to coat the inside of her nose with a nonprescription
triple antibiotic salve. "I
try to leave rested and well fed. I drink a lot of water for two
days beforehand and eat two good meals if flying at night,"
she said. "I
do not put my face on the airplane blanket or pillow. I use my own
pillow or at least a scarf between me and their gear."
invented chewing gum?
Laughing It Off
One who asks if the kids would care to order dessert.
The inevitable result when the baby doesn't appreciate the strained
What you call your child when you're mad at him.
The people who think your children are wonderful even though they're
sure you're not raising them right.
What toddlers do when anyone mutters a dirty word.
What you'd better have around de yard if you're going to let the
children play outside.
The first word spoken by children with older siblings.
A small body of water that invariably draws other small bodies wearing
dry shoes into it.
A child who is more talented than yours.
What you do to your first baby's pacifier by boiling it, and to
your last baby's pacifier by blowing on it and wiping it with saliva.
Where you should never put a child wearing Superman jammies.
When the baby's face turns red and she begins to make those familiar
What you should keep to a minimum so as to not upset the children.
None of the kids that live in your house
Calendars through the Ages...
have always been based on astronomical events equinoxes,
solstices and the like and their effects (real or perceived)
on human activity. This site documents the structures humankind
has attempted to place on these celestial movements.
A fast way to add a web page...
to your favorites, or bookmarks (depending on what browser
you use) is to hold down the CTRL key and press the D key once.
Go ahead and give it a try. This page should now be in your Favorites!
Look at THAT!
The Australian Museum
The hand outlines in this rock painting...
were created up to 4,000 years ago, around the era of Stonehenge.
Australian scientists have discovered a cave containing scores of
these pictures up to 4,000 years old. The cave holds 203 paintings,
stencils and prints in "pristine condition" depicting
humans and god-like human/animal composites, birds, lizards and
marsupials. There are life-size, delicately drawn eagles, kangaroos
and an extremely rare depiction of a wombat, painted in 11 layers
during a period from about 2000 B.C. to the early 1800s.
Joyful Lifestyles: Weekly Insights
LIFE IS MEANT TO BE LIVED
is to be lived. No excuses. No reservations. No holding back.
Once again, our dear friend, author Steve Goodier of Life
Support System.com .sheds
a beautiful light on a universal subject:
enchanting story about violinist Fritz Kreisler tells how he once
came across a beautiful instrument he wanted to acquire. When
he finally raised the money for the violin, he returned to buy
it and learned that it had already been sold to a collector.
went to the new owner's home in order to try to persuade him to
sell the violin. But the collector said it was one of his prized
possessions and he could not let it go. The disappointed Kreisler
turned to leave, but then asked a favor. "May I play the
instrument once more before it is consigned to silence?"
was granted and the great musician began to play. The violin sang
out a quality of music so beautiful that the collector himself
could only listen in wonderment. "I have no right to keep
that to myself," he said after the musician finished. "The
violin is yours, Mr. Kreisler. Take it into world, and let people
Arthur Ward said, "If you believe in prayer, pray; if you
believe in serving, serve; if you believe in giving, give."
For you and I are exquisite violins our music is meant
to be heard.
want to live my life that way to take it into the world
and live it fully. I'd rather burn out than rust out. I'd rather
be used up than die not having done whatever I could...wherever
I would. I'm
not talking about wearing ourselves out on over-activity. Happiness
is never found in excessive busyness. But it is found in investing
our lives in others. Saying YES when asked for a hand. Volunteering
some time for a worthwhile organization. Spending an hour with
a lonely relative.
the end, I know that my happiness will not have been about by
my ability or my inability. It will have been about my availability.
My life is meant to be lived." ~Steve Goodier © 2002
Chelle Thompson ~
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