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"Nothing contributes so much to tranquilizing
the mind as a steady purpose
a point on
which the soul may fix its intellectual eye."


~Mary W. Shelley, English Novelist (1797-1851)


March 17, 2003

Today's Tune (on/off):

"Put a Little Love in Your Heart"

IN THIS
WEEK'S ISSUE:

From the Inside Out...
The Kindness Challenge

Yes You Can!...
Get a Desired Home Price

Far Horizons...
Emerald Isle #2?

Links That Shine...
Ideals Work.com

Fascinating Facts...
Brian's New Beak

Laughing It Off...
Word Power

Untangling the Web...
What a Site!
Computer Ease

Look at That!...
Whoopee!

Joyful Lifestyles...
Choices (2)



Uplifting World

BE the World
You Want to See!

It's a simple challenge
and a grand chance to
demonstratively make
a difference in the
world around you.

~ Chelle ~


From the Inside OutMake a Difference
TAKE THE KINDNESS CHALLENGE ...

The big snow storm that recently hit the East Coast of the United States has prompted countless "random acts of kindness."

Have you ever been the recipient of a random act of kindness? Have you ever given one?

Generosity warms the spirit. The act of giving, no matter how small, opens our hearts and spreads joy to the giver of the gift as well as the recipient.

Random Acts of Kindness are the perfect springboard to leap into generosity. Random Acts of Kindness are good deeds done for strangers who could use a little blessing.

We all have stress in our lives. We all have bad days. There's nothing like a Random Act of Kindness to pull a person out of a lousy mood.

In our long ago Chicago days, my wife and I used to make sure we had extra change with us when we traveled the tollway system. We would pull up to the booth and give the attendant our toll, plus pay the toll for the car behind us.

The reactions were priceless. Some people sped away, unable to understand they had been the recipients of a Random Act of Kindness. But most were appreciative. Some even made the effort to catch up to us and thank us.

Another target for Random Acts is Kindness is the drive-thru window. If you go through a fast food joint for breakfast and have an extra four dollars, pay for the meal of the person behind you.

Imagine their surprise and delight when they pull up to the window to pay for their food, only to be told, "The guy in front of you already paid for it."

Random Acts of Kindness can be big or small. If you would rather be more generous than a sandwich or toll booth change, perhaps you can buy groceries for a needy family.

If you can put the groceries on their front porch without them knowing (and without getting bit by a dog), go for it. What's the worst thing that could happen? If you are unable to buy them food (or uncomfortable doing it) get them a gift card from the local supermarket.

Find somebody who knows the family in need (maybe their pastor, or a neighbor) and ask them to please give them the card, but not to tell them the gift is from you. Random Acts of Kindness are best served anonymously..

Be creative with your Random Acts of Kindness. Have fun with them. Make them a family project. If you think you get a charge from it, wait until you see how the kids get into it.

The possibilities are endless, as are the opportunities. We just have to train ourselves to be watchful for the chance to bless.

It can be as simple as a greeting card slipped onto a stranger's car windshield that says, "You are loved". You could even send flowers to a hospital patient you've never met.

Opportunities to bless surround us every day. It's up to each of us to grab hold of those opportunities and turn them into Random Acts of Kindness.


~ Chris Courtney, Heartwarmers.com
www.E-ncouragement.com

Sun Wave Yes You Can!
GET A DESIRED HOME PRICE


While every real estate transaction is different, buyers and sellers often fall back on standard negotiating techniques to get to a signed contract both can live with. Understand the dynamics of negotiation so you can stay focused and emotionally detached during a sometimes anxious process.

Do all of your negotiating in writing. It may seem cumbersome, but there are no guarantees with oral agreements or commitments. Avoid discussing terms with the seller or the seller's agent while your offer is on the table.

There are literally hundreds of points that you can negotiate in a real estate transaction. Usually, you'll deal with just a handful when making your offer, such as the standard financing and home inspection contingencies.

Most purchase contracts, especially if they are standard documents, contain boilerplate language that may not fit your situation and may in fact be unfavorable to you. These are areas you need to negotiate carefully. The more you know about the language and art of negotiation, the better the deal you can make for yourself, and the more money you'll save in the process.

BARGAINING STRATEGIES ...

Starting low and moving up works best for properties that are overpriced in slow markets. Possible Outcome: Seller rejects outright or counters to get you to increase your offer, and you move up and agree on a price that comes close to what you want to pay.

Offering close to asking price works best for properties that are priced well in active markets. Possible Outcome: Seller may accept outright or counter to get you to increase offer slightly.

Offering the top price you can afford works best in hot markets. Possible Outcome: Seller may reject and you may have to walk away.

Saving terms to bargain works best in situations where seller is highly motivated. Possible Outcome: Seller may trade price concessions for your agreement to close sooner or take charge of repairs after the inspection.

Giving up something to get something works in most situations. Possible Outcome: Seller ends up taking something you don't really want but you asked for initially to gain a lower price or other concession.

Moving in small increments works best for overpriced properties in slow markets. Possible Outcome: Seller may agree to lower price if given time to adjust to the idea.

Focusing on issues you can resolve to keep momentum going works best after several rounds of negotiation. Possible Outcome: Seller and buyer come to terms after resolving easiest issues first.

Being unpredictable works best after several rounds of negotiation. Possible Outcome:Seller accepts your offer after you suddenly make a sizable change.

Making an either/or offer works best after several rounds of negotiation. Possible Outcome: Seller accepts one of two scenarios you offer.

Splitting the difference works best after several rounds of negotiation. Possible Outcome: Seller and buyer settle on price exactly between asking price and offer.

Setting deadlines for action works best in any situation. Possible Outcome: Seller and buyer will act more quickly and decisively if given a time limit.

TIP: In a competitive bidding situation, a seller may try to influence your offer through your agent. If your offer is on the table and you hear from your agent that the seller will accept it if you change a couple of terms, ask for a formal counteroffer before responding. In some states, such as California, a seller can counteroffer with more than one buyer at a time. All states allow a seller to withdraw a counteroffer before it has been accepted by a buyer.

~ MSNHomeAdvisor.com

 

Far Horizons
EMERALD ISLE #2?

Montserrat
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The Island of Montserrat, fondly known as "The Emerald Isle of the Caribbean", is a lush tropical paradise located between Antigua and Guadeloupe. Montserrat was settled in 1632 by the Irish. In the latter half of the twentieth century, St. Patrick's Day began to also honor national heroes, with cultural activities and heritage festivities. The shamrock, prominently displayed at Government House, is still a national symbol. This year, Montserrat has linked with Dublin to share St. Patrick's Day celebrations through websites, youth events, churches and Government contacts.
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Fascinating FactsBrian
BRIAN'S NEW BEAK

An injured bald eagle, delivered to Vancouver's North Island Wildlife Recovery Center this past summer, is the first of his kind to sport a false beak. At least 62-year old dentist Brian Andrews couldn't find anyone else who had done this kind of surgery before. And that's why it took him four tries to get it right.

Andrews volunteered to rebuild the eagle's beak after hearing about its plight in a news story on the center. Robin Campbell, the center's wildlife manager had been caring for the eagle, cleaning and dressing the wound, but without a strong beak, a full recovery was impossible.

And refitting that beak proved pretty difficult too. Andrews based the design, complete with breathing holes, on a picture of an eagle on a recent cover of National Geographic magazine as well as a dried beak specimen. However, his first attempt only sealed off the damaged area by way of a large plastic mould. But Brian tore off that apparatus not long after it was installed!

Without having any advice to go on, Andrews' second attempt didn't last very long either. Condensation caught between the beak and the prosthesis caused the beak tissue to soften so much, they had to remove the new beak and try again. The third beak was the wrong size (Brian's real beak shrunk a little from the damage of beak #2). But, so far, beak #4 — constructed of a plastic prosthetic on top and an open metal design below — is working out just fine.

Dr. Brian Andrews, for whom the eagle is named, says the bird is even feeding quite naturally now, able to tear away at a fish just as it would have before the injury.

To keep an eagle eye on Brian's progress, and find out more about the wildlife refuge that's given him a home, visit North Island Wildlife.

~Discovery Channel, EXN.ca


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Laughing It Off
WORD POWER

The Washington Post publishes a yearly contest in which readers are asked to supply alternate meanings for various words. The following are some of the recent winning entries:

1. Coffee (n.), a person who is coughed upon.

2. Flabbergasted (adj.), appalled over how much weight you have gained.

3. Abdicate (v.), to give up all hope of ever having a flat stomach.

4. Esplanade (v.), to attempt an explanation while drunk.

5. Intaxication (n.), euphoria at getting a tax refund, which lasts until you realize it was your money to start with.

6. Negligent (adj.), describes a condition in which you absentmindedly answer the door in your nightie.

7. Sarchasm (n.), the gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.

8. Gargoyle (n.), an olive-flavored mouthwash.

9. Flatulence (n.) the emergency vehicle that picks you up after you are run over by a steamroller.

10. Balderdash (n.), a rapidly receding hairline.

11. Giraffiti (n.), describes vandalism spray-painted very, very high.

12. Decaflon (n.), the grueling event of getting through the day consuming only things that are good for you.

13. Oyster (n.), a person who sprinkles his conversation with Yiddish expressions.

14. Dopeler Effect (n.), the tendency of stupid ideas to seem smarter when they come at you rapidly.

15. Frisbeetarianism (n.), The belief that, when you die, your soul goes up on the roof and gets stuck there.

~Contributed by Ron Gavran
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Untangling the Web

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Look at THAT!

WHOOPEE!

Kuala Lumpur 
Photo: Bazuki Muhammad /REUTERS

Skydivers parachute from Malaysia's
landmark Petronas Towers during a rehearsal for a New Year's event in Kuala Lumpur in December, 2002. With a height of 1,453 feet, the towers have become symbols of the astounding growth that has taken place in Malaysia over the last two decades.
~REUTERS

 

JoyJoyful Lifestyles: Weekly Insights
CHOICES, CHOICES, CHOICES (Part 1)

Previously, we mentioned that according to William Glasser, M.D., author of "Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom," most of the emotional turmoil we experience is related to trying to control those around us through seven deadly habits, including punishing, complaining, blaming, threatening, nagging, criticizing, and bribing. Glasser says you can avoid these "seven deadlies" by replacing them with seven caring habits: Supporting... Encouraging... Listening... Accepting... Trusting... Respecting... and Negotiating Differences. How can a person make such a dramatic turnaround? You could start with Glasser's "Tricks of Truly Happy People." According to Prevention.com, these include:

Run a reality check. Do you use the seven deadlies? How did you talk with the people you live with this morning? Did you listen to what they were saying? Or did you let their words run in one ear and out the other? Did you encourage them to move ahead with what they've planned for the day? Did you support them in their choices? Or did you put them down or just nod your head as you drank your coffee?

Really listen. "Treat people like they're your best friends," says Suzy Hallock-Bannigan, a trainer with the Glasser Institute who is based in South Pomfret, VT. Hang on their every word. Find time to sit down with them and really pay attention, without being distracted by cell phones, passing traffic, or the demands of other people. Then give them time to get out what they have to say. "I also try to check in with people all the time to make sure I've correctly heard what they're saying," she says.

Envision the new you. Draw a mental picture of yourself as a person who practices the seven caring habits. Keep it in the back of your mind, then pull it forward when you're talking with those close to you to see if you're acting like a caring person.

Accept reality. "You have to understand that the only person you can change is yourself," says Hallock-Bannigan. If your husband is a tightwad who hates it when you spend a dime, you can't do a thing about his attitude. But you can control yours. Instead of slugging it out with him over whether or not a $15 pair of Liz Claiborne socks is "necessary," hold your irritation in check and apply as many of the seven caring habits as you can. Look for a compromise, such as holding the line at one pair of socks, or promising to check store knockoffs that are as pretty but cheaper.

Negotiate. "When you have a difference with someone who's important to you, you negotiate," says Dr. Glasser. But what happens if your partner digs in his heels? To deal with that, Dr. Glasser developed something called the "solving circle" — a piece of string that forms a circle outline on the floor. You and your partner face each other and, as each of you feels ready, you step into the circle and say, "The most important thing in my life is our relationship. We have a problem with (name the problem). We know that arguing and blaming will do no good. And in order to avoid wounding our relationship, I am willing to (say what you're willing to do that will help)." It may take a few days to get this accomplished, and some people may find that a third party — a therapist or marriage counselor — may be a necessary ingredient.

Ask the right question. In that split second after which the urge to blame, complain, criticize, nag, threaten, punish, or bribe arises, but before the words actually leave your mouth, stop, and ask yourself, "Is this really important?":

Pick a model. When Hallock-Bannigan was training Sisters in Ireland to use the caring habits, one good Sister was having trouble figuring out how to respond to someone who was criticizing her. So Hallock-Bannigan asked her, "Who's the woman you most look up to?" The answer was Mary Robinson, president of Ireland and a champion of human rights. "Well, what do you think she would be thinking and feeling in this situation?" asked Hallock-Bannigan. "What would you see her doing?" Ten seconds later, the Sister was off to do what Mary would have done.:

Write about it. Keep a daily journal to help think your way through the transition and keep track of your progress.

As you know, my greatest desire is for everyone to fully realize that
... WE ALL HAVE THE POWER OF CHOICE.

~ Chelle Thompson ~

CHOICE THEORY:
A New Psychology of Personal Freedom
By William Glasser, M.D.
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