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"The greatest revolution of our generation is ~ William James, American Psychologist (1842-1910)
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THIS WEEK'S ISSUE
Yes You Can!... Far Horizons... Links That Shine... Fascinating Facts... Laughing It Off... Untangling the Web... Look at That!... Web-Wise Update...
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our hearts is the single most important gift ~ Chelle ~
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From the Inside Out
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Frances Rauscher, PhD, a psychologist with the University of Wisconsin, and her colleagues have found that there is a positive effect on children's spatial-temporal (puzzle-solving) and math skills when those as young as 3-years-old are given formal musical instruction — when they actively study and play music, not merely listen to it. According to Norman Weinberger, PhD, a professor of neurobiology and behavior at the University of California in Irvine, "Music learning and practice benefit many mental and behavioral processes, including cognitive development, language learning, reading ability, creativity, motor skills, and social adjustment." "Singing to your child is so important," says Sandra E. Trehub, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Toronto. "In contrast to recordings that sound exactly the same at every hearing, a mother fine-tunes her voice to her baby's needs. When her baby is cheerful, she sings in an upbeat voice. When she is fretful, Mom sings in a soothing manner. Since babies can't really regulate their own moods in the early months of life, a mother's singing plays a vital role here." Trehub, who has studied cultures around the world and found music to be an integral part of every one of them, notes that singing to your baby also reinforces bonds between you. "The natural pleasure Mom gets from singing to her baby is amplified by her enjoyment. For the baby, those songs and the way they're sung become associated with pleasure, enjoyment, a sense of security, and good things in general." Trehub agrees that having fun with your baby is one of music's greatest perks. But equally important, she suggests, is its role as a cultural guidepost for children. Songs, both heard and sung, are a classic way for kids to learn about language, customs, and the larger world as a whole. Indeed, Weinberger has observed that many babies begin singing around the same time they start using language, and first words are often part of familiar songs. "Even before literacy was widespread, crucial cultural information — how to plant crops, the location of tribal boundaries — was embedded in songs so it could be transmitted from one generation to the next," says Trehub. "Babies today learn animal names and sounds, counting, colors, stories, and, of course, the alphabet from the songs they hear and sing." My own children have picked up Spanish (their father's native language) from songs. "Singing to your kids is just as important as reading to them," says Tom Chapin, a children's recording artist. "Even books don't give the same kind of quality, one-on-one interaction as singing because words only convey meaning, whereas music conveys emotion."
So, by all means, keep playing those CDs. And sing to your child.
Dance with him/her. Make up silly rhymes and songs. Take them to
music class if you like, or simply pull out the pots and pans and
make noise. Incorporate music into your everyday life as often as
you can. Not because it will make your child a brilliant mathematician,
but because it's another enjoyable experience that nurtures them
— and your relationship with them. ~Heather Moors Johnson, Family.MSN.com
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Far Horizons GREAT SANDY DESERT
Links That Shine
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Fascinating
Facts
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1. Tech Support calls "YOU" for help. 2. Someone at work tells you a joke and you say "LOL" — right out loud. 3. You find yourself trying to cock your head 90 degrees when you smile. 4. You don't even notice anymore when someone has a typo. 5. You bring a bag lunch and a cooler to the computer. 6. You stop speaking in full sentences. 7. When looking at signs, you wonder why they are always "yelling" at you. 8. When at work, your boss constantly reminds you that the word "i" should be capitalized. 9. Your spouse now complains of you moving your fingers in your sleep instead of talking. 10. You stop typing whole words and use things like prolly, dunno,wanna, lemme, brb, ttyl and 'k'. 11. You watch TV with the closed captioning turned on. 12. You no longer type with proper capitalization, punctuation, or complete sentences. 13. You dream in "text". 14. You change your screen names so much that you have to look at your own profile to see who you are. 15. You double click your TV remote. 16. You type messages to people — while you are on the phone with them at the same time. 17. When someone asks, "What did you say?" you reply, "Scroll up — scroll up!" 18. You have an identity crisis if someone is using a screen name close to your own. 19. You can type faster than you can think. 20. Three words: Carpal Tunnel Syndrome.
~Contributed
by Jane at www.online-TheCatsMeow.com
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Untangling the Web
Running Disk Defragmenter.... Look at THAT! "DON'T MOO-VE"
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Web-Wise Update
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Joyful Lifestyles: Weekly Insights As explained by therapist Robert Burney, M.A. in his book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls, there are four basic roles that children adopt in order to survive while growing up in emotionally dishonest, shame-based, dysfunctional family systems. Some children maintain one role into adulthood, while others switch from one role to another as the family dynamic changes (i.e. when the oldest leaves home, etc.). These roles are: “Responsible Child” or “Family Hero” —- This is the child who is “9 going on 40” who takes over the parent role at a very young age, becoming very respon-sible and self-sufficient. They give the family self-worth because they look good on the outside. They are the good students, the sports stars, the prom queens. The parents look to this child to prove that they are good parents and good people. As an adult, the Family Hero is rigid, controlling, and extremely judgmental of others and secretly of themselves. They achieve “success” on the outside and get lots of positive attention but are cut off from their inner emotional life, from their True Self. They are compulsive and driven as adults because inside they feel inadequate and insecure. “Acting
out child” or “Scapegoat” —-
This is the child that the family feels ashamed of, yet the most
emotionally honest child in the family. He/she acts out the tension
and anger the family ignores. This child provides distraction
from the real issues in the family. The scapegoat usually has
trouble in school because they get attention the only way they
know how —-
which is negatively. They often become pregnant or addicted as
teenagers. These children are usually the most sensitive and caring
which is why they feel such tremendous hurt. They are romantics
who become very cynical and distrustful. They have a lot of self-hatred
and can be very self-destructive. "We are, of course, born with a certain personality. What happens with the roles we adapt in our family dynamic is that we get a twisted, distorted view of who we are as a result of our personality melding with the roles. This is dysfunctional because it causes us to not be able to see ourselves clearly. The false self that we develop to survive is never totally false —- there is always some Truth in it. For example, people who go into the helping professions do truly care and are not doing what they do simply out of Codependence. Recovery is about getting honest with ourselves and finding some balance in our life."
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