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"The greatest revolution of our generation is
the discovery that human beings, by changing
the inner attitudes of their minds, can
change the outer aspects of their lives."

~ William James, American Psychologist (1842-1910)
(Reprinted from www.HeartInspired.com )

March 1, 2004


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THIS WEEK'S ISSUE


From the Inside Out...

The Gabby Cabby

Yes You Can!...
Nurture with Music

Far Horizons...
Great Sandy Desert

Links That Shine...
"Web-Wise Sage"

Fascinating Facts...
A Shining Example

Laughing It Off...
Online Too Much?

Untangling the Web...
What a Site!
&
Computer Ease

Look at That!...
"Don't Moo-ve"

Web-Wise Update...
Monthly Facts & Fiction

Joyful Lifestyles...
Clarity in Family Dynamics
(Part 4)


Inspiration

BE the World
You Want to See!

Opening our hearts is the single most important gift
we can give ourselves
and the world
.

~ Chelle ~

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From the Inside OutPeter Franklin - The Gabby Cabby
THE GABBY CABBY

Recently, I was driving in my car and suddenly on Public Radio a wonderful interview came up. A journalist was interviewing a man who calls himself "The Gabby Cabby."

This is his story as I remember it:

Mr. Peter Franklin is a cab driver in New York City. As a result of some magic in his life and his own inspiration, he started a corporation and a web site called Gabby Cabby, Inc.

He decided that no one in the world was better suited to tell you about New York City than a cab driver who drives it all day. He looked at himself in the mirror of life and decided that he was the one!

So, he and his wife took some time and they approached every radio station in the world, which meant over 40,000. The ball started rolling and before he knew it, he was being called for interviews.

Since he started talking about living in New York, he has had over 40,000 appearances on the radio. He has been interviewed around the world, both on the radio and on audio on the web.

At first, he was self-conscious. He talked about events that had happened in the city and the people who came into his cab, but not about himself. He was almost a little afraid to be personal — even had fantasies that he would be stalked.

However, over the years he realized that people loved to know a little about him. It made him human and very real to them. So, he began to share more about his son, who had just graduated from West Point and his daughter who was living in Ireland.

Currently, he still is out there talking about his city, his world and himself. He feels that he has helped people around the world better understand New York City. He is determined to continue, as this is his passion and his message to the world.

I think that he is a wonderful example of somebody deciding that indeed they have a role to play beyond earning a living, beyond all the standard roles of being a wife, husband, neighbor, etc.

Inside of himself, he realized that there was a special spark — a gift he had to offer the world. He wasn't just a cab driver — he was an ambassador of a great city. He had a mission and no one else in the world could do it exactly as he could.

Becoming an Enchantress or Enchanter is all about deciding what roles you have to play in life that are exquisitely suitable just to you. In fact, no one else can do them as you can. Then you can begin to cast your spells of Enchantment, as the Gabby Cabby did.

As an Enchantress or Enchanter you combine inspiration with mental perspiration in exactly the right balance to move forward.

That’s what the Gabby Cabby was willing to do. I admire him and I admire each and every one of you with the persistence and courage to cast your positive spells upon the world!


~ Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
Positive Psychologist and Happiness Coach

and Author of The Enchanted Self: A Positive Therapy and
Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is You!

Visit Dr. Holstein''s website: www.EnchantedSelf.com
and e-group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/encself/join


Inspiration
Ye
s You Can!

NURTURE WITH MUSIC

Frances Rauscher, PhD, a psychologist with the University of Wisconsin, and her colleagues have found that there is a positive effect on children's spatial-temporal (puzzle-solving) and math skills when those as young as 3-years-old are given formal musical instruction — when they actively study and play music, not merely listen to it. According to Norman Weinberger, PhD, a professor of neurobiology and behavior at the University of California in Irvine, "Music learning and practice benefit many mental and behavioral processes, including cognitive development, language learning, reading ability, creativity, motor skills, and social adjustment."

"Singing to your child is so important," says Sandra E. Trehub, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Toronto. "In contrast to recordings that sound exactly the same at every hearing, a mother fine-tunes her voice to her baby's needs. When her baby is cheerful, she sings in an upbeat voice. When she is fretful, Mom sings in a soothing manner. Since babies can't really regulate their own moods in the early months of life, a mother's singing plays a vital role here."

Trehub, who has studied cultures around the world and found music to be an integral part of every one of them, notes that singing to your baby also reinforces bonds between you. "The natural pleasure Mom gets from singing to her baby is amplified by her enjoyment. For the baby, those songs and the way they're sung become associated with pleasure, enjoyment, a sense of security, and good things in general."

Trehub agrees that having fun with your baby is one of music's greatest perks. But equally important, she suggests, is its role as a cultural guidepost for children. Songs, both heard and sung, are a classic way for kids to learn about language, customs, and the larger world as a whole. Indeed, Weinberger has observed that many babies begin singing around the same time they start using language, and first words are often part of familiar songs.

"Even before literacy was widespread, crucial cultural information — how to plant crops, the location of tribal boundaries — was embedded in songs so it could be transmitted from one generation to the next," says Trehub. "Babies today learn animal names and sounds, counting, colors, stories, and, of course, the alphabet from the songs they hear and sing." My own children have picked up Spanish (their father's native language) from songs.

"Singing to your kids is just as important as reading to them," says Tom Chapin, a children's recording artist. "Even books don't give the same kind of quality, one-on-one interaction as singing because words only convey meaning, whereas music conveys emotion."

So, by all means, keep playing those CDs. And sing to your child. Dance with him/her. Make up silly rhymes and songs. Take them to music class if you like, or simply pull out the pots and pans and make noise. Incorporate music into your everyday life as often as you can. Not because it will make your child a brilliant mathematician, but because it's another enjoyable experience that nurtures them — and your relationship with them.

~Heather Moors Johnson, Family.MSN.com

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Far Horizons

GREAT SANDY DESERT

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Contrary to its name, western portions of the Great Sandy Desert in Australia are almost devoid of sand. Its surface, however, is richly textured by complex geological formations as seen in this NASA photo taken from space by the U. S. Geological Survey’s Landsat-7 satellite. The Aboriginal name for this area is the "Tanami," named by explorer Allan Davidson on his geological expedition in 1900. This vast region is sparsely populated, without significant settlements. Only on the coast are there isolated sheep stations. But it's the desert's unearthly stillness and emptiness that make the interior such an unforgettable experience.

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Links That Shine

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"Web Wise Sage"


Still trying to figure out how to do things you've seen on other websites? This extremely conscious site specializes in website add-ons such as: Automatic Newsletter Generation, Automatic Link Page Generation, Events Calendar, Surveying Polls, Article Submission, Tell A Friend, Exit Popups, Affiliate Programs, Greeting Cards.

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Fascinating Facts
A SHINING EXAMPLE


Inspiration
Why do some paints, stickers
and toys glow in the dark?

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Answer Here
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InspirationIMPORTANT OPPORTUNITY: Vote in the Alaska Daily News' poll to say whether Maggie the elephant should join her trunked sisters in one of the Lower 48 sanctuaries or remain at the Alaska Zoo.
NEWS STORY: http://www.adn.com/front/story/4777762p-4721902c.html
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Computer Kiss
Laughing It Off
YOU'RE ONLINE TOO MUCH IF...

1. Tech Support calls "YOU" for help.

2. Someone at work tells you a joke and you say "LOL" — right out loud.

3. You find yourself trying to cock your head 90 degrees when you smile.

4. You don't even notice anymore when someone has a typo.

5. You bring a bag lunch and a cooler to the computer.

6. You stop speaking in full sentences.

7. When looking at signs, you wonder why they are always "yelling" at you.

8. When at work, your boss constantly reminds you that the word "i" should be capitalized.

9. Your spouse now complains of you moving your fingers in your sleep instead of talking.

10. You stop typing whole words and use things like prolly, dunno,wanna, lemme, brb, ttyl and 'k'.

11. You watch TV with the closed captioning turned on.

12. You no longer type with proper capitalization, punctuation, or complete sentences.

13. You dream in "text".

14. You change your screen names so much that you have to look at your own profile to see who you are.

15. You double click your TV remote.

16. You type messages to people — while you are on the phone with them at the same time.

17. When someone asks, "What did you say?" you reply, "Scroll up — scroll up!"

18. You have an identity crisis if someone is using a screen name close to your own.

19. You can type faster than you can think.

20. Three words: Carpal Tunnel Syndrome.


~Contributed by Jane at www.online-TheCatsMeow.com
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Untangling the Web

Inspiration
WHAT A SITE!

"The Secret Lives of Numbers"
Pick a number between 1 and 100,000.
Why did you pick it? What does it mean to you? What does it mean to others? This Java application collects data from certain popular search engines and derives an idea of
which numbers are popular or often used.
http://Turbulence.org/Works/nums/


COMPUTER-EASE

Running Disk Defragmenter....
enables your computer to run at top speed by putting all like files and applications into contiguous groups. 1. Go to Start, point to Programs, point to Accessories, point to System Tools, and then select Disk Defragmenter. 2. Click the Settings tab, select the check boxes you want (to ensure fastest startup of programs, select the first box), and then select OK. 3. Click the drive you want to defragment, select OK, and then select Yes. It's best to shut down all other applications before you run Disk Defragmenter.


Look at THAT!
"DON'T MOO-VE"

Cow
Visiting Bank


A Friesian cow, named "Paula" ...
took a detour from a wedding and wandered into a German bank where she was caught on security cameras sidling up to the tellers.
"The cow entered, made an elegant turn and walked right back out," said a spokeswoman for Sparkasse Savings Bank in Wunstorf, a small rural town in northern Germany. "Paula" was supposed to be taking part in a nearby wedding ceremony, but strayed into the bank. When farmers in this region marry, the new bride traditionally milks a cow to prove her skills in the homestead economy. ~Reuters

 

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MONTHLY FACTS & FICTION

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Joyful Lifestyles: Weekly InsightsJoy
CLARITY IN FAMILY DYNAMICS (Part 4)

As explained by therapist Robert Burney, M.A. in his book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls, there are four basic roles that children adopt in order to survive while growing up in emotionally dishonest, shame-based, dysfunctional family systems. Some children maintain one role into adulthood, while others switch from one role to another as the family dynamic changes (i.e. when the oldest leaves home, etc.). These roles are:

“Responsible Child” or “Family Hero” - This is the child who is “9 going on 40” who takes over the parent role at a very young age, becoming very respon-sible and self-sufficient. They give the family self-worth because they look good on the outside. They are the good students, the sports stars, the prom queens. The parents look to this child to prove that they are good parents and good people. As an adult, the Family Hero is rigid, controlling, and extremely judgmental of others and secretly of themselves. They achieve “success” on the outside and get lots of positive attention but are cut off from their inner emotional life, from their True Self. They are compulsive and driven as adults because inside they feel inadequate and insecure.

“Acting out child” or “Scapegoat” - This is the child that the family feels ashamed of, yet the most emotionally honest child in the family. He/she acts out the tension and anger the family ignores. This child provides distraction from the real issues in the family. The scapegoat usually has trouble in school because they get attention the only way they know how - which is negatively. They often become pregnant or addicted as teenagers. These children are usually the most sensitive and caring which is why they feel such tremendous hurt. They are romantics who become very cynical and distrustful. They have a lot of self-hatred and can be very self-destructive.

“Placater” or “Mascot”
- This child takes responsibility for the emotional well-being of the family. They become the family's ‘social director” and clown, diverting attention away from the pain and anger. This child becomes an adult who is valued for their kind heart, generosity, and ability to listen to others. Their whole self-definition is centered on others and they don’t know how to get their own needs met. They become adults who cannot receive love, only give it. They often get involved in abusive relationships in an attempt to “save” the other person. They go into the helping professions and become nurses, and social workers, and therapists. They have very low self-worth and feel a lot of guilt.

“Adjuster” or “Lost Child” This child escapes by attempting to be invisible. They daydream, fantasize, read lots of books or watch a lot of TV. They deal with reality by withdrawing from it. They deny that they have any feelings and “don’t bother getting upset.” These children grow up to be adults who find themselves unable to feel, and suffer very low self-esteem. They are terrified of intimacy and often have relationship phobia. They are very withdrawn and shy and become socially isolated because that is the only way they know to be safe from being hurt. A lot of actors and writers are ‘lost children’ who have found a way to express emotions while hiding behind their characters.

"We are, of course, born with a certain personality. What happens with the roles we adapt in our family dynamic is that we get a twisted, distorted view of who we are as a result of our personality melding with the roles. This is dysfunctional because it causes us to not be able to see ourselves clearly. The false self that we develop to survive is never totally false - there is always some Truth in it. For example, people who go into the helping professions do truly care and are not doing what they do simply out of Codependence. Recovery is about getting honest with ourselves and finding some balance in our life."

(In our upcoming final part, we'll learn what a HEALTHY family looks like ...)


~ Chelle Thompson, Editor ~

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