 | At
these times of unprecedented change and challenge, many are taking the opportunity
to reevaluate their lives. Is the work you are doing truly serving you? Are your
priorities where you want them to be? Would you like to be spending more time
with your family? Is your life as meaningful as you would like? Are you aware
of your personal value? ... |
"Be
your own awakener to the beauty and power that are alive in you right now."
~John-Roger
Personal
value what is that? I am glad you asked. Not the same as "values"
which have more to do with how you relate with the world around you. If
you were to ask yourself: what does positive attitude or positive state of mind
mean to me? you will come up with your personal philosophy. Being open and honest;
communicating with integrity; giving a percentage of your income to charity
all come under personal values.
Personal
value is the term I use for inner strength, your innate essence or the human spirit
that sustains you throughout your life. Personal value has more to do with who
you are, than how you act or behave. Building your inner strength will assist
you to succeed in a job interview; to achieve your goals and objectives; to make
a positive contribution within your family and community; to be inspired, creative
and resourceful.
You
recognize personal value in one who has a radiant quality of love; a powerful,
peaceful presence that relaxes and reassures. A couple who exchange their wedding
vows of loving commitment shine with the spirit of who they are. Those who have
been in the presence of HH the Dalai Lama speak of the powerful quality he radiates.
You can feel it.
"You
don't need a reason to be radiant." ~Davide de Angelis
To
build your own inner strength, try some of the following:
1.
Take time to look within ...
Start to meditate, learn yoga, spend time
in nature and reflect. Just sit, do nothing and observe as you breathe deeply
and slowly. Get in touch with your inner nature, the beauty and essence that you
are.
2.
Affirm your qualities ...
What qualities make you unique? Enthusiasm, sense
of humour, joy, persistence, courage, ability to connect with others? Affirm those
in the present tense with "I am" statements. Choose 3 affirmations
and repeat them, first thing in the morning and last thing at night. For example:
I
am generous with my family and friends
I am caring and considerate
I am
thoughtful and loving
3.
Make agreements you know you can keep ...
Be on time. You will show yourself
to be a reliable person. Re-negotiate agreements you cannot keep make fewer
of them. You will know yourself as being trustworthy.
4.
Learn to say "No" ...
Do not over-commit yourself. Refusing a
request is not against anyone else. You are being honest with, and true to, yourself.
5.
Accept, appreciate and love yourself through difficulties ...
When your
life is in turmoil, you may not do things "perfectly". Give yourself
permission to learn. Ask: What can this situation teach me? Remember that at all
times, you are doing the best you can. When you know better, you do better.
6.
Be forgiving ...
When you make a mistake, be tender, kind and compassionate.
Do not punish, criticize and condemn yourself. Love and comfort yourself, as you
would a precious child.
7.
Prize yourself ...
Celebrate your "wins", the things that go
well, and the good that you do. At the end of the day, notice the goodness of
your intention and your actions.
8.
Do what gives you happiness ...
Be happy with what you do. Choosing to
be happy is a great spiritual discipline. When you are walking, smile to yourself.
You will find things to smile about.
9.
Focus on the positive ...
Even in the midst of disaster, look for the blessings
and opportunity present. With a positive attitude, you can literally turn your
life around.
10.
Relax and be patient ...
While you may not be able to do anything about
the global economy as a whole, you can make the most of each day and take steps
to build a future you would like. This is not a passive, hopeless enduring, but
an active, participative anticipation of a better life for yourself and those
you care for.
11.
Be open for the best ...
You never know what good is right around the next
corner. Keep an open and receptive mind. Do not be tempted to believe all you
hear on the news. The creative spirit in you, and in our human community, is a
very wonderful and extraordinary resource.
12.
Say thank you to life ...
.... and for your life. Be grateful. If you feel
down, look around you and be grateful for all that you have, right now. The attitude
of gratitude will take you through life's worst storms and lead you toward greater
joy, serenity and fulfillment.
"What
we achieve inwardly will change outer reality." ~Plutarch
Believe
in the beauty of who you are. Salute your human spirit. Dare to shine! How have
you built strength in your life so far? How are you using these times to good
effect? How will you celebrate your inner strength this New Year's Eve?
~
By Anne Naylor, who has been a Consultant in personal motivation since 1982.
Author
of three personal development books, Superlife, Superlove and SuperYou,
Anne
gives Clear Results Consultations for individuals meeting life turning points,
or wishing to improve the quality of their lives. Gifted with a talent for
discerning
the unique value in each of her clients, she communicates her trust
in the power of
each person to lead a fulfilling and rewarding life, however
they define it.
Visit her website at: www.AnneNaylor.com